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How To Tell If She’s Interested

>ARE YOU interested in learning how to tell
whether or not a woman is interested in you? Are
you fascinated with eye contact, body language,
and the little “hints” that women use to tell you
that they’re attracted to you? If so, and if
you’re interested in learning how to use these
tools to create ATTRACTION, then read THIS:

http://www.guygetsgirl.com

OK, I have a quick trick question for you.

That’s right, I said a quick TRICK question.

How can you tell if a woman is interested in
you?

Answer quickly.

So what gives?

Why am I asking you a trick question?

Simple.

Because I’m trying to make you THINK.

I’m sure that, just like me, you’ve read a
hundred books and articles that say things like:

“If she tilts her head to one side and strokes her
neck, that’s a sign of interest…”

“If she licks her lips in a longing fashion, that
means she’s interested in you…”

“If she laughs a lot, makes positive eye contact,
and touches you often, then she likes you…”

DUH!

I remember when I first read all this stuff.

I thought to myself “Wow, cool! I must have
been missing these hints because I didn’t know to
look for them. Now I’ll know when a woman is
interested in me…”

Well, there was ONE SMALL problem…

The problem is that women display these MAJOR
INTEREST signals in about 1 of 100 interactions
with men…

And there was one BIG problem…

That problem was that none of the damn books I
read said a single thing about how to MAKE women
give you these signals.

In other words, what I realized is that average
guys like me who don’t get “approached” by women
need to learn not only WHAT to look for, but, more
importantly, how to actually CREATE ATTRACTION in
women so they GAVE me these signals in the FIRST
PLACE.

So let me share with you some ideas on how to
MAKE women feel ATTRACTION for you… and then
I’ll share some ideas on what to LOOK FOR to tell
if a woman is interested.

And my ideas will be a WEEEEEE BIT different
than the ones you read in your flirting books.

OK, so you’re out at a bar with a few friends,
and it’s time to meet some interesting women.

You look around, and none of the hot young
babes in there seem to be tilting their heads to
one side, looking you in the eye, and licking
their lips… so you decide to DO SOMETHING.

What do most guys do in this situation?

Either:

1) Nothing, because they’re scared, or…

2) Something typical, like ask a girl to dance, or
if he can buy her a drink.

If you’re guilty of doing these, raise your
hand.

Then take your raised hand, and slap yourself
silly. Not too hard. But silly.

If I have your attention, and you’re interested
in becoming a MASTER of using Body Language to
create ATTRACTION, then check this out:

http://www.guygetsgirl.com

A “Facial Expression” That Attracts Women

HEY… If you’d like to learn how to
meet and attract women - check this out:

http://www.guygetsgirl.com

***QUESTION***

Hey,

I just wanted to tell you that your a really smart
man. Your research has paid off and it is the best
thing that has ever come into my life. At first i
really did not get it but after i read your
newsletters it became crystal clear. I your
techniques on my ex’s and my friends and it works
like a charm, my phones have never been so busy
before. Now for my question, in your last news
letter a guy mentioned giving a girl “the wrinkled
eyebrow”. What is that and why does it work. Also
im not too good at body language so could you also
address that. Im looking forward to downloading
your ebook and buying your book.

THANKS ALOT FOR YOUR GENEROSITY WITH THIS
INFORMATION

W.C BRONX, N.Y

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You’re welcome for the information.

And NICE!

I’m glad to hear that you’re practicing on
everyone.

One of the great “extra” benefits that you get
from using the concepts that you’re learning here
is that you’ll have more FUN in your “regular”
relationships… and in business.

To answer your question about “The Wrinkled
Brow” that was mentioned in a previous
newsletter…

Find a picture of Marlon Brando on the cover of
“A Streetcar Named Desire” or a picture of Colin
Farrell.

Notice the look that these guys have on their
faces.

There’s something about this particular look
that says “I’m a man. I’m a BAD BOY. I’m sexy, and
I know it….”

This is a deep topic. And it’s something that I
go into detail about in my Advanced Dating
Techniques program.

The long-and-short-of-it is that men can do
things that women find “sexy” and this is one of
them. You don’t have to be naturally “handsome”
for women to find you “sexy.” Again, this is a
deep topic, but that’s the basic idea.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave, hey my name is Z and do i have a success
story for you.

I’m a guy who got the girls, but only the ones
that weren’t what i wanted, and i could never find
out how to get the ones that i wanted, that was,
until i decided to try your program. i mean i
practiced the “get the e-mail, not the number”
kind of thing for days until this one pool party.
i went up to a girl and started talking to her for
a few minutes, well to make a long story short, I
GOT A PHONE NUMBER AND E_MAIL ADDRESS!!!! and then
another and another tell i finally left with
FOUR!!! thanks a lot! keep sending me info and i
WILL read it!!!

Z

>>>MY COMMENTS:

LOL… yeah, it’s fun to learn how to start
meeting and getting emails/numbers from the kinds
of girls that you REALLY want… isn’t it?

I can remember back a few years when I would
have thought it would be IMPOSSIBLE to get FOUR
emails and numbers from women in one night.

LOL… now 4 or 5 is just no big deal.

Thanks for the story. It really helps to know
that other guys are out there doing it.

***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

i received many of ur emails, and i’m not a guy,
I’m a lady.

i found a lot of what u wrote is against the
nature of a normal relation between a man and a
woman, and many things that u gave as an advice
would turn any woman off so soon.

for example, i like flowers and i like going out
to nice places and u wrote in ur advices that it
doesn’t matter to a woman where do u take her. and
i’m saying it does matter at least in the first
few dates, the reason why is not because i like
him to pay..but cuz a man has to show her that he
would do anything for her, and he loves to please
her ..and that is the most attractive thing to a
woman.it is the normal relation between a man and
a woman.. A man should chase the woman not the
opposite!! And it’s definitely against femininity
to chase a man. this is just an example.

bye

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, I’m guessing that English isn’t your first
language… at least I hope not.

But what you are saying here is clear.

You’re basically saying that a man should
“court” a woman by taking her out to nice places
and paying for everything.

You also say that “a man should chase the
woman” and “a man has to show her that he would do
anything to please her”.

Let’s talk about these things a little bit…

First off, I get where you’re coming from.

I used to act this way myself.

When I met a girl that I liked, I’d call her a
lot, take her to dinner, and chase after her.

What I never could understand is why, when I
acted this way, women tended to RUN AWAY from
me… instead of towards me. They would “play hard
to get”, not seem very interested, and often only
liked me as a “friend.”

Later, as I began studying guys who were
“naturally” successful with women and dating, I
found something VERY interesting…

I found that most of the guys I met who were
UNUSUALLY successful at attracting women DID NOT
CHASE the women.

In fact, if anything, they were the ones who
were “playing hard to get.”

Of course, this confused me at first.

But what I’ve realized since is that when a man
“courts” a woman, he’s hinting that he’s
interested in a “long-term relationship”… or
even marriage.

If the woman is also interested in marriage,
what does she usually do?

Right, she turns up the heat, and makes the man
REALLY work hard to “get her.”

I mean, how else can she “be sure” that he’s
serious?

On the other hand, if a man DOES NOT do all of
these typical “courtship” things, it changes
everything.

It’s often confusing to a woman.

And if the woman knows that the man is also
able to attract OTHER women, it creates a
CHALLENGE in her mind.

This is why men who are dating several women
are usually more interesting to women than men who
have no dates.

Is my advice perfect, 100% of the time?

No way.

I teach guys how to be successful in the dating
world, not in the marriage world.

If a guy really likes a woman, and he’s
interested in a “long-term relationship”, then the
rules change a bit (but not that much).

Most women SAY that they want a man to chase
them. But when it comes to the REAL WORLD, it
usually doesn’t play out this way.

If you chase a woman, she will usually run.

***QUESTION***

What’s up Dave?

Cocky/funny and the friendship frame work well.
However, I do have one question. In your e-book,
you state that you should always keep your
composure. But you also state, in your bonus book
on the 8 different personality types, that the
“bad boy” personality is the most magnetic to
women; that there’s nothing more thrilling than a
“bad boy.” And, in almost all cases, “bad boys” do
not keep their composure; they’re notorious for
throwing temper tantrums, yet they are still so
attractive to women. What’s your take on this?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a FANTASTIC question.

Let’s talk about “Bad Boys.”

I personally believe that women are ATTRACTED
to “Bad Boys” on a “subconscious” level.

You’ll have to get my Advanced Series if you
want a full explanation. It takes hours.

But, the point is that Bad Boys have aspects to
their personalities that women find SEXY.

Unfortunately, Bad Boys are often ABUSIVE as
well.

I don’t like abuse, and I don’t like to be
abusive.

In fact, I dislike MEAN people and MEAN
BEHAVIOR more than just about anything.

I may bust balls and tease a lot, but
underneath it all I’m always just teasing, or
trying to help.

One of the things that never sat well with me
was the idea that I had to do EVERYTHING that a
Bad Boy does in order to have women dig me.

Well, the good news is that I’ve realized that
it’s very possible (and can be fun) to take some
of the great things that Bad Boys do to attract
women… and learn them…WITHOUT the abuse.

You probably see where I’m going here.

YES, Bad Boys often throw tantrums and “lose
their composure.” This is true.

But, I think that throwing tantrums, yelling at
women, and being physically abusive to women are
all horrible.

They’re just not good.

On the other hand, keeping your COMPOSURE is
the “right way” to deal with many situations with
women.

When you keep your composure, you actually show
that you’re EVEN STRONGER than if you were to get
upset.

I mean, if you WANT to get upset, feel free.

Maybe we’ll see you on the next Springer
rerun…

But COMPOSURE is a much better way. Try it,
you’ll like it.

By the way, if you want to learn the secret of
keeping your composure AND triggering massive
attraction the way a BAD BOY would, then go and
check THIS out. It’s the best way to learn…

http://www.guygetsgirl.com

Key Words Women Say When Attracted

>>>HEY… I’ve created an entire series of
programs to help you learn how to attract women,
get dates, and take things to a “physical
level”… and you can look through all of them
right here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com

OK, so GET THIS…

I’m reading through some of the bazillion
emails I get every week, and I come across one of
the best emails that I’ve read in a LONG time.

Are you ready for the interesting part?

It’s from a MARRIED GUY.

Yep, you read that right. He’s married.

He reads the newsletters and uses the things he
learns to improve his marriage. Go figure.

This guy was able to explain in a few
paragraphs a concept and technique that I
personally use, but have been unable to actually
explain and verbalize well.

I wish I would have written what you’re about
to read, but I didn’t (but I’m still a cool guy
because I wrote what came before and after it).

Check this out…

***Conversation Technique***

I’m still having great success with a rekindled
marriage using you’re Tips on my wife. Thanks a
million. Listen, I keep reading over and over in
the MailBags guys wanting to know how to start,
then keep a conversation going with women. I work
for a major oil company and have been through many
of there training courses on dealing with people.
One particularly interesting course was on
“Information Seeking”. For this we first practiced
picking up on “Key words or phrases” the subject
said. For instance, I’ll try and give an example
using c&f even though you wouldn’t use this
professionally on the job. Lets say you see this
great looking chick on the street and you tell
her, “That’s an unusual looking dress you’re
wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?”
She says, “Your mean! No, I bought this from the
Old Navy store.” Key Words: Old Navy. “Oh, so
you’re in the Navy, huh?” “No silly. You know, the
big store over at the Mall.” Key word: Mall. “Oh,
so you like going to the Mall and buying strange
looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy
them also?” “My girlfriends are neat dressers and
my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!” Key
phrases: “girlfriends are neat dressers” and
“dress is popular”. “Well, if your girlfriends are
neat dressers in a popular dress like you’re
wearing then I’m going into the shower curtain
clothing business…” I know, this is a lame
example but the lessons are this.

1) You start a conversation with however you want
then pick out key words or phrases from what the
person says.

2) You repeat them in what you say then listen for
new key words in there next response.

3) You add a little something new into the
conversation REPEATING there words you’re using as
Key words or phrases. This tells them you’re
listening, even though you’re turning things
around to be c/f in this situation.

Once we learned to keep someone talking for 5
minutes, then 15 minutes the company actually
hired total strangers from a job soliciting
company to come and be our subjects. While being
videotaped we had to get the person talking and
keep them talking for 30 minutes. One important
note: If a person brings up something personal or
whatever, they wouldn’t have mentioned it if they
didn’t want to talk about it. These are great to
Key in on. My subject mentioned she was going
through a divorce and her ex-husband was a total
jerk. I keyed in on this and it’s amazing what a
total stranger will tell you once you build a
little rapport. When watching the video you pick
up on mistakes or you see something different you
could have said. You also pick up on Key words and
phases you missed. It just takes a little
practice. This is just one example of how you can
start a conversation and keep it going. Hopefully
it can be of help to you’re readers.

JTM Texas

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Awesome.

This is an EXCELLENT description of how to keep
a conversation going, keep it interesting and
unpredictable, and talk about ANYTHING and have it
be fun.

Read it again.

Now, let me sprinkle a little magic dust on
this and tell you how I use this technique
personally.

When I’m having a conversation with a woman,
I’m not just listening for ANY key word… I’m
listening for a particular KIND of key word (or
words).

I’m always on the alert for any words or
phrases that can be twisted, turned around,
misinterpreted, and misconstrued (is that a word?)
in one of a few particular ways…

Namely, in a way that says she’s stupid, ditzy,
sexually crazed, or acting suspicious.

For instance, in your example above, you
suggested the following:

“That’s an unusual looking dress you’re wearing.
Was that made out of a shower curtain?” She says,
“You’re mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy
store.” Key Words: Old Navy. “Oh, so you’re in the
Navy, huh?” “No silly. You know, the big store
over at the Mall.” Key word: Mall. “Oh, so you
like going to the Mall and buying strange looking
dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them
also?” “My girlfriends are neat dressers and my
dress is very popular I’ll have you know!” Key
phrases: “girlfriends are neat dressers” and
“dress is popular”. “Well, if your girlfriends are
neat dressers in a popular dress like you’re
wearing then I’m going into the shower curtain
clothing business…”

Good. Nice one.

Now, let’s dial it up a little bit…

She says, “No, I bought this from the Old Navy
store…”

Instead of just keying into “Navy” and saying,
“Oh, so you’re in the navy, huh?”, why not take it
to the next step and actually MAKE FUN of her.

“Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in the
Navy a long time ago… in the OLD Navy?”

Now you’re BUSTING on her as well, AND it’s
funny.

She says, “No silly. you know, the big store
over at the Mall.”

You might try, “What kind of MALL are YOU
shopping at? And do your girlfriends buy dresses
like that one too?”

Again, you’re hinting that she has funky taste
and she shops in weird places.

She says, “My girlfriends are neat dressers and
my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!”

You could go with, “Oh, you have girlfriends?
You have more than one? Do they all know that you
think of them as a girlfriend? Or is one of them
the special one? By the way, if you have cute
girlfriends, then I think you and I are going to
get along VERY well.”

…are you with me here?

What I’m doing is NOT ONLY looking for key
words to latch onto, but I’m ALSO looking for ways
to spin them to make fun, tease, and subtly
suggest various kinds of “racy” topics.

When done in a funny way, it’s magic.

My very favorite technique with women is “Cocky
& Funny”. If you want to learn to master it, make
sure you go and check THIS out right now:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com

Tell me if this sounds like you…

You meet a girl. You find a connection.  You become her friend
in order to know her better.  And when you finally make a move,
you get a speech that starts with, “I really like you, BUT…”

If you’ve EVER had this happen to you, then this message can
help you prevent from happening again…

As I mentioned in a previous email, one of the most common
questions I receive is about how to turn a female friend into
a girlfriend.  In fact, last week I provided a great site where
you change ANY woman’s opinion about you:

===> http://chickmagnet101.com

The problem is it’s EXTREMELY difficult to transform a
woman’s attraction to a certain guy.  Once she’s formed an
opinion, it’s had to change this feeling.

This happens because your average guy starts with the friendship
angle, thinking this will make a girl like him.  Unfortunately
his efforts typically end with her saying something like:

“I really like you.  You’re a great guy.  BUT, I don’t feel
THAT way about you.  How about we JUST BE FRIENDS?”

This is widely known as the “Let’s Just Be Friends speech” or
LJBF for short.

When a woman says these words to you, there’s very little you
can do. (Unless you take a look at the website I just
mentioned).

Now there’s a nasty truth to what a woman REALLY thinks as
she gives you the LJBF speech. When a woman tells you this,
it’s NOT because she wants to be friends.  Instead she’s
saying that she does NOT find you attractive enough to date.
And rather than telling you the truth, she’s trying to let
you down easy without a messy confrontation.

Sucks, doesn’t it?

It’s really painful to LIKE a girl, but NOT have these
feelings returned.  And to make matters worse, this is
something that you can PREVENT!

The LJBF speech almost always happens because of a SPECIFIC
mistake you made when you first meet a girl.  What usually
happens is you’ll act like her friend and do “nice things”
to show that you’re ‘boyfriend material’.  And if you’re like
a lot of dudes, you secretly hope she’ll SUDDENLY see how
wonderful you are and want to be with you.

Unfortunately there’s a harsh reality here…

If she doesn’t see you as a romantic partner from the BEGINNING,
she won’t see you this way in a few weeks or months.  Sure it’s
happened to a FEW guys, but this is the exception to the rule.

Simply put- If she’s NOT ATTRACTED the first time you meet her,
she WON’T BE ATTRACTED later on.  So while you’re buying her
dinner, and listening to her problems, she’s thinking about
OTHER guys and NOT you.

Don’t get me wrong. When she first met you, she COULD have felt
attraction towards.  But when you act like her friend, she
automatically start to think of you as… Her FRIEND!

Fortunately there IS a way to prevent the LJBF speech.  And it
starts the moment you meet a woman. When you first meet a girl,
DO NOT act like her friend.  Instead, act like someone she
would want to date.

This might seem a little counter-intuitive, but acting like a
bit of a jerk and teasing her (in a funny way) can be the
quickest way to creating attraction.

Seriously… I’ve had MANY women (including my current
girlfriend) tell me how much they HATED me at first.  The
secret was I NEVER acted like their friend.  Instead I was
straight-forward about my intentions and wasn’t afraid to
tease them a little.

I’m not suggesting you act like a complete asshole when you meet
a girl.  But have a little bit of an edge, and don’t be afraid to
playfully banter.  This automatically shows that you’re NOT a
guy that can be easily placed into the ‘Friends Zone‘.

Bottom line is if you want to COMPLETELY eliminate the LJBF
speech from your life, you have to focus on ONE thing when
you meet a girl:

SEXUAL TENSION

Avoiding the Friends Zone can be quickly accomplished when
you focus on creating sexual chemistry instead of acting like
her buddy.  And this is easily achieved when you “push and
pull” her emotions. One minute, you’re teasing and picking
on her.  The next, you’re creating a playful, flirting
conversation.

This makes you different from the OTHER guys she’s met.  While
they’re busy kissing her ass and trying to be her friend,
you’re the challenging guy who she’s not quite sure about.

So the next time you want to make an impression on a girl, don’t
act like her buddy.  Act like someone she sexually desire.

Finally if you find yourself in a situation where you’re ALREADY
in the Friends Zone (or if you’ve already received the LJBF
speech) there is ONE way you can get out of it.

Many guys have used a little-known technique called “Re-Branding”.
This is where you use a psychological tactic to completely alter
her opinion of you.  And the way to get started is here:

===> http://chickmagnet101.com

http://www.chickmagnet101.com/

How do I ask THIS girl on a date?

It’s a question that your average guy wonders when talking to a
woman for the first time. He’s enjoying the conversation,
think she’s attractive, and wants to meet her to find out more.

So what’s the secret to asking a girl out? Truth is there
really is NO magical formula. Most of the time, a conversation
filled with flirting and sexual tension will NATURALLY flow into
making plans for a future encounter.

But with that being said, there are a few rules and guidelines
that you should follow if you want to turn a first conversation
into a date with a woman:

#1- Flirting Conversations

Above ALL things, a woman HAS to enjoy the conversation that
she’s having with you! If she’s glancing around the room and
looking for a chance to escape, then a date with her will NOT
be in your future.

To make her want to date you, she HAS to feel sexual attraction.
Unless you create a feeling of chemistry, the BEST that’ll
happen is she’ll think you’ll “make a great friend”…YUCK!

When you’re talking to a girl, you MUST create sexual tension
by knowing how to use basic flirting techniques

You can flirt by teasing her, joking around, playing flirty
games, telling stories, and establishing rapport. All of
these tactics will help you spark her interest.

Truth is the MORE you successfully flirt at this point, the
EASIER it’ll be to get that date! Use the first 10-15 minutes
of the conversation to your advantage. Show her that you’re a
guy that she NEEDS to see again!

#2- Test Her Reaction

EVERYTHING you need to know about a girl’s interest is found in
her body language. In fact, it’s been proven that 90% of all
human communication is done on a non-verbal level.

So even if she’s smacking you and telling you “what a jerk you
are”, her body language is saying something COMPLETELY
different.

If you want to see if she’s interested in a date, you have to
study her reaction to your flirting conversation.

Here’s your goal… When talking to this girl, you have to
sky-rocket her sexual attraction. Whether it takes a few
minutes OR a few hours, you must build your conversation to the
point where you KNOW she’s attracted to you.

How can you tell? Well…EVERY woman has a NUMBER of signals
which indicate her level of interest. Here are some common
signs of attraction:

~~~> She keeps the conversation going by asking you personal
questions

~~~> She’s touching you throughout the conversation

~~~> She’s laughing and fully engaged in what you have to say

~~~> She’s teasing YOU back whenever you’re joking with her

~~~> She starts to hint about what you like to do and ask what
you’re doing during the week.

Now I personally think a lot of these are OBVIOUS signs of
interest. Unfortunately most guys don’t seem to pick them up.
The honest truth is MOST of the time you’ll simply *feel* when
“it’s on” and when it isn’t. Use these signs as a guideline NOT
as the absolute truth!

#3- Getting the Date

A lot of guys put TOO much emphasis on bringing girls on the
PERFECT date. If you want to impress her, don’t TRY to impress
her. Confusing, right?

The BEST date idea isn’t something elaborate. Instead it’s
bringing her to an activity that you would NORMALLY do during
the week. AND you ask her in a way that does NOT come across
as a date request.

When the conversation is going well, simply think about what you
have going on during the upcoming week. (In the “Flirt Mastery”
system you’ll learn the importance of being a guy who is out
there doing fun, interesting things)

If you follow this advice, you should doing a LOT of things…
Are you meeting friends at a bar? Are you going to a concert
or sporting event? Even easer, are you going to the mall to
shop?

A date shouldn’t be a formal, fancy event. It should a fun,
casual activity that gives you a chance to deepen the connection
you had during the first conversation. The point is- If you’ve
done the previous two steps correctly (flirt and spark interest),
she will WANT to see you again.

At the moment when she’s laughing AND having fun, you casually
mention what you’re doing during the week. THEN simply invite
her to come along with whatever you’re doing and get her number.

It’s really that simple!

#4- Text and Call For Re-Attraction

Here’s a FINAL step to ensure that this number turns into a
date….

Without going to into TOO much detail here, women OFTEN
get “buyer’s remorse” when giving out their number. If you want
to keep her interest, you MUST maintain that sense of sexual
tension during the period between the number exchange and the
first date.

Bottom line is you have to work on RE-ATTRACTING her. The essence
of this technique is you call and text her to keep YOU in the
forefront of HER mind. By STRATEGICALLY calling and texting her
with flirty messages, she’ll subconsciously anticipate your
next encounter.

Asking a girl on a date doesn’t have to be a complicated process.
As long as you’re creating that fun vibe, it’s easy to make her
interested in seeing you again.

By following the FOUR step plan that I outlined in this message,
you’ll quickly make her NEED to see you again!

http://www.chickmagnet101.com/

The Personality Type That Attracts Women

http://www.chickmagnet101.com/SexualCommunication

I get a lot of emails from guys who read my
newsletter that say things like…

“I’m sure what you’re saying is right, but I don’t
want to be a jerk or an a**hole to women…”

…or…

“I have seen what you’re talking about happen all
my life, but I’m a ‘nice guy’ and I want women to
like me for me…”

…and…

“This doesn’t make sense…”

For most of my life, I was THE nice guy of nice
guys. As a matter of fact, when I first made the
decision to learn how to be successful with women,
this actually created an OBSTACLE for me.

Let me explain…

Because I believed that “being a nice guy” MUST
be the way to success with women, I ACTUALLY
COULDN’T EVEN PERCEIVE ANY OTHER WAY.

In other words, I could see a situation where a
woman was attracted to a mean, abusive guy and
think to myself that either she must be screwed up
in the head, or THAT THE GUY MUST BE REALLY NICE
TO HER THE REST OF THE TIME.

As you probably know, it’s hard to convince a
person to believe something when they already have
a belief about the topic. The person that you’re
trying to convince just uses whatever you say to
convince themselves that they’re actually right…
and you’re wrong.

I did the exact same thing.

No matter how much evidence I found to the
contrary, I still somehow believed that being a
“nice” guy, buying women flowers and gifts, taking
them out, and generally letting them be in control
of the relationship HAD to be the way to attract
them.

Well, after continuing along the same path and
getting the same results, I realized something
that literally changed EVERYTHING for me.

I realized that JERKS do, in fact, attract hot
women.

Selfish behavior, as unhealthy as this might
sound, often makes women feel attracted to you.

Sarcasm, ball busting, playing hard to get and
all kinds of other “illogical” things really do
work when it comes to attracting women.

But, then I had a dilemma…

I love the idea of being successful with women
but, I HATE the idea of mistreating people, being
mean to them, lying and being misleading, etc.

Deep down, I wanted to be a good guy.

I decided that there MUST be a way to make this
work, and to attract women without being ABUSIVE.

The good news is that THERE IS a way.

But, it requires that you put aside your
current ideas for just long enough to entertain
some new ones.

First, let me say that I believe I’ve found a
way to take the things that JERKS do to attract
women and use them WITHOUT THE ABUSE. When you
learn to do this, you can really have the best of
both worlds… you can be nice to women on your
own terms, and give them what they REALLY want,
and what REALLY attracts them.

So, WHY DO WOMEN BECOME ATTRACTED TO JERKS?

The short answer is that they don’t CHOOSE it,
it’s something that just HAPPENS.

ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE.

It’s an emotional response to certain things.

Women don’t CHOOSE to feel the emotion called
ATTRACTION for jerks any more than YOU choose to
feel the emotion called ATTRACTION for young,
beautiful, hard bodied women.

Nature has preprogrammed MEN with a mechanism
that works like this:

SEE HOT WOMEN —> FEEL ATTRACTION

Well, women have a similar mechanism. But I
think that the female version is MORE COMPLEX.

Yes, women do feel attraction for extremely
handsome men… but they feel a MUCH STRONGER
ATTRACTION for certain PERSONALITY TRAITS and
BEHAVIORS than they do for physical looks alone.
(This is a complex topic that I don’t have the
time to explain in detail here, but if you want to
get a more detailed explanation of how this
process works, then go over to:

http://www.chickmagnet101.com/SexualCommunication

How To Impress ANY Woman

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I’ve learned a secret to impressing women that
I’m going to share with you in this newsletter.

It’s a secret that probably not 1 in 1,000 men
knows or will ever figure out on his own.

The REASON that most men will never figure out
this particular secret is that it’s TOO OBVIOUS.

Let me explain…

I personally think that most men feel a very
powerful desire to IMPRESS women.

If you watch the way a man behaves when he’s
talking to a woman he’s just met or a woman that
he’s on a first date with, you can SEE IT.

Maybe you’ve been there yourself.

I know I have. Many, many times, in fact.

The feeling that you need to impress a woman
usually comes along with another feeling: DON’T
SCREW THIS UP.

Here are some of the signs that a guy is
feeling the need to “impress” the woman that he’s
talking to:

1) He tries to only say “cool” things, or things
that will “impress” the woman.

2) He acts nervous and stilted during the
conversation… sometimes coming across as
“formal”.

3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants
to hear.

4) If he says something that the woman doesn’t
like, he “back-pedals” and tries to change what
he said to suit the woman.

5) He doesn’t say anything “risky”, doesn’t tease
the woman, and doesn’t do anything to upset her.

…in other words, when a guy is talking to a
woman that he “likes”, he’s usually on his “best
behavior”, and he’s trying to “put his best foot
forward”.

To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVE
TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY “LIKE”.

And this drive to impress often makes them
act UNNATURAL.

There’s your first hint, in fact…

THE SECRET

Remember at the beginning when I told you that
I was going to share a secret with you about how
to impress women that not 1 in 1,000 men will
figure out on their own?

Well, here it is:

STOP TRYING.

If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women,
and do the things I’m teaching you instead, women
will NATURALLY be “impressed” by you.

TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN’T IMPRESS HER.

So let’s break this down…

WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD

What’s wrong with trying to “impress” women,
anyway?

To start with, EVERYTHING.

When you intentionally try to impress a woman,
you send the following messages on a “subtle” level:

1) I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I
will try to “impress” you instead.

2) I’m not comfortable enough around women to just
act normal.

3) I don’t have a lot of experience with attractive
women.

4) I’m insecure.

5) I don’t know how to make women feel comfortable
with me.

Ouch.

But it’s the truth.

Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you’re “trying”.

The conversation doesn’t feel “normal”, your
body language is strange, and you can’t seem to
have a regular conversation.

Now of course, I’ve just described the way that
about 99.9999% of men act when they’re first talking
to a woman that they “like”.

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I have an admission that I have to make…

As I get older, I’m simply getting LAZIER with my life. A few
years back, I was OBSESSED with learning EVERY trick there was
to approaching women and starting conversations.

NOW I’ve completely changed the way I think. The startling
truth is I simply DON’T LIKE the effort it takes to walk up to
a group of women and try to attract them. I would rather spend
my time doing the things that I love than to SPEND hours trying
to impress someone you just met.

In other words, I now focus on “Natural Attraction” and getting
women to come to ME.

Natural attraction is an incredibly USEFUL concept to learn.
It involves structuring your life around doing the things you
enjoy while attracting different women at the same time.

The key to this process is knowing how to “flip on” the biological
triggers all women have deep inside them. If you get this
wrong, you’ll be a guy who DOES live his life, but ALSO doesn’t
have any women around him.

That’s why I recommend the following
website:

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On this page, you’ll unlock the secrets to getting women to
come to you. Instead of wasting your time learning “openers”
and trying to overcome your approach anxiety, you can learn how
to develop your lifestyle to the point where women are interested
in you and will be the one to start the conversation.

To discover more about these unusual, biological natural
attraction secrets from a woman’s point of view, go to

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Many guys send me emails complaining about canned material and
how it’s NOT congruent to who they are. If you feel the same
way, then I recommend you take a look at John’s course and see
how it fits in with your current dating situation.

How To Get An “Ex-Girlfriend” Back…

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Hi,

I am a subscriber to your newsletter, and will
soon download your e-book and/or your CD.

I like what you write and I already learned a lot,
I believe. But lately you were dealing with a
subject intriguing me more than others: why do
women leave men. Which triggered my question.

Here it comes:

Last year I was dating a woman for several months,
in fact it was beyond dating already, we were
close to a committed relationship. And we had
pleasure and fun together, great sex and
everything. Then all of a sudden she decided that
it was not “that”, she left and went back to her
former guy, a jerk who doesn’t treat her even
remotely as well as I did. Now from your
newsletter I conclude that this was precisely the
problem. At the beginning I had acted well (even
without having your newsletters then), she was
chasing me, not the other way round, and I
instinctively did it right, played the “hard to
get” and let her run hot. No wonder she was wild
on me when we finally hit off. But then I must
have changed my behavior and started acting like a
WUSSY. (By the way, what does WUSSY really mean,
i.e. the word itself, I am not a native English
speaker, I just understand that it is undesirable
with women). And consequently she lost interest
and attraction for me. But strangely enough ever
since then she keeps in contact with me, emailing,
phoning, writing that she is missing me, says she
wants to keep me as a friend and so on.

Now the real questions:

1. How do you interpret her behavior? Is she still
interested somehow or what?

2. Is there - according your experience - any
realistic chance to get her back, i.e. to trigger
again her interest and attraction?

I should add that I am not sure that I really want
her back, in fact rather not, but it would
certainly be nice to get her to that stage again,
so I could then decide in control of the situation
as in the beginning.

Thanx for any comments of yours

A.H. Zurich, Switzerland

>>>MY COMMENTS:

So, let’s start with the definition of the word
WUSSY…

This word is a combination of the words “Wimp”
and another word that starts with P, has a next
letter of U, then two of the letter S and finally
a letter Y.

In other words, a Wussy (or Wuss), is a guy who
tends to behave in a wimpish, submissive, needy,
way.

The opposite of a Wussy is Maximus during his
first arena fight scene in the movie Gladiator.

The problem with being a Wussy is that women
are NOT ATTRACTED TO WEAKNESS… and thus, they
are NEVER attracted to WUSSIES.

Never.

Ever.

Ever.

A woman might MARRY a Wussy because he’s either
the best she can get, has a lot of money, has
courted her for so many years that she finally
gives in, or whatever…

But, she’ll never feel ATTRACTION for him.

Women don’t CHOOSE who they feel ATTRACTION
for, and they don’t choose the emotions that they
feel either.

It just HAPPENS. Bam!

One problem that a lot of guys have to face is
TURNING INTO a Wussy over time…

When you start off on the right foot, then
gradually turn into a Wuss over time with a woman,
that emotion called ATTRACTION starts to go away
inside of her.

A woman will tell her friends “I don’t know
what it is…but for some reason lately he’s just
annoying to be around.” etc.

It BOTHERS and ANGERS women when a man that’s
interested in them acts like a WUSSY. In many
women it actually triggers these emotions just
like dominant behavior triggers ATTRACTION.

Of course, the worse things get, and the more
annoyed a woman becomes, the more like a total
WUSSBAG most guys act.

It’s one of those “vicious cycles” that usually
ends with the woman leaving and the guy sitting
there wondering what he did wrong… and him
thinking that maybe, if he had just been able to
tell her just how much he loved her, that she
would not have left him for that other abusive
jerk.

By the way, if you want to learn how to DE-
WUSSIFY yourself for good, and become a man that
is universally attractive to women, then you must
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How To “Bounce Back” From A Breakup

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***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***

I am at the end of long long divorce settlement -
(18 months) I started dating about six months
after our split — meeting most on the internet-
Found I was naturally using some cocky and funny
but accelerated when I started getting your
newsletter.

Meeting them and lining them up has been no
problem-but once we are intimate –they want
exclusivity–I can’t know what I want yet (except
sex)–but don’t want some of the good ones to get
away–I keep hearing “you want your cake and eat
it too!!”

Also—had one I was dating recently–wanted to
know about anybody and everyone else I was seeing
—said the openness was good for a relationship.

I disagreed??

rb–michigan

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I’m glad you wrote in because I think that this
is a topic that is near and dear to a lot of
single men.

And, even though I have not been married
myself, I know what it’s like to be in a
relationship for a couple of years and then all of
a sudden be single again… and I know what it’s
like to start over again.

You have brought up some great points here, so
let’s see if I can add some insight.

First, I think that it’s pretty natural for a
guy who has just ended a long term relationship to
feel rather “naked” when it comes to women and
dating.

Often times, there are problems and drama when
two people break up, and sometimes you even have
jealousy and other issues to deal with.

So, one of the most important things to do when
you’re “getting back into the swing of things” is
to remember that things will improve with time.

It might take you a few weeks or months after
you start dating again to feel like “you’re back”.

You might even feel a little needy and lonely,
which I also think is natural after breaking up
with someone to whom you were very close.

A critical mistake to avoid is TURNING INTO A
NEEDY WUSS AND TRYING TO WIN YOUR EX BACK… OR
TURNING INTO A NEEDY WUSS AND TRYING TO WIN ANY
WOMAN.

Now, it doesn’t sound to me like this is your
problem but, I think that something like this
might be part of one of your problems.

Huh?

Whatever… I’ll just keep talking and you’ll
figure out what I’m saying.

You probably had been in your relationship for
at least a few YEARS. When you’re in a
relationship for this long, I think that guys
naturally start behaving differently than they
would if they were just dating a woman.

It’s natural and expected that you’re going to
see your spouse every day, sleep with her every
night (I said sleep with, not have sex with… I
know, I know)… and generally be “around” all the
time.

Well, when you start DATING a woman, one of the
KEY factors that she looks at to decide whether or
not you’re going to be “relationship” material is
HOW MUCH TIME YOU SPEND TOGETHER.

I’m going to bet that these women you’re
meeting who want to be “exclusive” with you, are
responding that way because you’re spending A LOT
of time with them.

If you’re only interested in dating and not in
forming a relationship, then try this:

ONLY SEE HER ONCE A WEEK… TWICE AT THE MOST.

And only call her once or twice a week as well.

This should solve your “I want to be exclusive”
problem.

Women tend to get into “relationship mode” when
you start ACTING like you’re already in one.

And a big part of that is how often you see
her.

If you only see her once a week or so, a woman
will sense, on a deep level, that you’re not ready
to “settle down” with her, and that you’re busy
doing other things and PROBABLY dating other
women.

Next, you mentioned that you were dating a
woman and she wanted to know about every other
woman you were seeing, and that “the openness
would be good for the relationship”.

AHHH, THE “R” WORD AGAIN!

I wasn’t there when she said it, so I can’t be
sure, but my guess is that what she meant was “The
openness would be good for ME because I want to
know”, and NOT that it would be good for the
“relationship”.

This is subtle, but see if you can follow me.

You said that you disagreed (with a question
mark, which to me means that you’d like to know
whether or not I agree with you disagreeing).

I’d like to know HOW you disagreed, personally.

A lot of guys come across as weak when they
disagree because they just sound either
argumentative or insecure - or even worse, like
they’re trying to hide something.

If a woman said to me, “Tell me about all the
other women you’re seeing. I think it would be
good for the relationship” I’d probably say:

“Whose relationship are you talking about?”

…and then I’d laugh.

Or I might say, “I don’t kiss and tell” then
smile at her.

In any case, I would NOT communicate in a way
that says “I’m uncomfortable” or “I’m going to
give you what you want so you like me”.

You have to remember that a woman is going to
test your limits at ALL TIMES. And it never ends.

If you kiss up to a woman and give her what
she’s asking in the moment, she probably won’t
respect you in the LONG TERM because she knows
that she can get whatever she wants from you.

So, if you answer a question like this by
either:

1) Telling her what she wants to know, even though
you don’t WANT to tell her…

…or…

2) Telling her that you disagree in a way that
makes her think that you’re trying to hide
something…

…then she’s going to feel like she “has
something on you” and that she can get her way
with you in the future.

Or she might just up and leave because she
feels like you’re seeing other women AND trying to
hide it.

I know, isn’t it all so complex?

My personal perspective on this topic is that a
man and woman should typically wait at LEAST a few
months before getting into any kind of
“relationship”.

And if I’m dating a woman and she asks me if
I’d like to get into a relationship, and if I’m
seeing other women, I’ll answer something like
this:

“First of all, I don’t think it’s a good idea
for a man and woman to have a RELATIONSHIP
relationship until after they’ve known each other
for AT LEAST 3-6 months. One of the reasons why a
lot of relationships end so BADLY is because the
two people didn’t take the time to get to know
each other first. Also, I think it’s a bad idea to
talk about other people that you’re seeing during
that time because almost nothing good can come of
it” - and I leave it at that.

As you can probably tell, I really believe
this.

Again, it’s crucial that you don’t answer a
question like this in a way that is defensive or
argumentative.

If you do, you’ll risk being rejected for being
sneaky or dishonest.

To sum up, it sounds to me like you’re probably
used to being in a close relationship, and you’re
ACTING like you’re in a relationship with these
women that you’re just dating. When you do this, a
woman will start to feel those “relationship”
emotions and start asking questions and behaving
like she’s your girlfriend.

If you lean back a little, if you don’t see a
woman more than once or twice a week, and if you
stop behaving in a way that says “we’re in a
relationship now”, then the women will get it.
They’ll pick up on your body language and
communication and stop acting like girlfriends or
wives.

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